My ideal first date would be with someone who's my equal intellectually, or my better. I'd want to be able to chat and throw ideas and questions out to her and be able to receive his input back...doesn't matter if we have different ideas about things..what does matter is how we'd both handle those differences. The ideal setting? A quiet restaurant with a nice glass of wine. Relaxed atmosphere with perhaps a fireplace for gazing, soft background music, and soft lighting. I want her to feel at ease and just enjoy visiting with me, and vice versa.