After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, and you learn that love doesn't mean possession, and company doesn't mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts, and presents aren't promises, and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a . And you learn to build your roads today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans, and futures have ways of falling down in mid-flight. After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much so you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong, and you really do have worth...and you learn.